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The Counseling Connoisseur: Compassion and self-care during flu season

By Cheryl Fisher February 16, 2018

“Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare.” ― Audre Lorde


The familiar buzz from my bedside wakes me. Squinting, I pick up my cell phone, and I see that a client is notifying me of her current malady. She describes, in detail, her symptoms which include a fever, digestive discontent and upper respiratory discomfort. “But I plan on coming to my appointment tomorrow, Dr. Fisher,” she writes. I bolt up from the comfort of my bed, now fully awake at the thought of this client infecting my office, and reply as therapeutically as I can at 2 a.m., “Oh my goodness, no. Please stay home, drink lots of liquids and get your rest. We can reschedule for next week.” Whew! Crisis averted. Dodged that one! I roll over and resume my sleep, albeit a bit less restful.

A few hours later, I am (again) awakened by my phone. It is another client who has been up all night vomiting. She will not be in today. Thank goodness! Again, I write a compassionate and caring response wishing her a speedy recovery. I roll over and surrender to an extra hour of sleep.

My alarm sounds and I roll out of bed and prepare for my very full day — minus the two clients who are ill.

My phone rings. It’s a client who was driving to the office and had to stop because she doubled over in intestinal distress. Another client ill! No worries —

I have paperwork to do. I settle in front of my computer, and I notice an email — another client is sick and won’t be making her appointment.

I begin making calls from my cancellation list as I wait for my next client. I am able to fill most of the open spaces. I note the time — my next client should have arrived. I open my office door and walk to the waiting area, where my next client sits, complete with glazed and droopy eyes and a red runny nose. With a deep cough, he stands and extends his hand, which is stuffed with tissues.

It’s flu season!

As counselors, we sit with people who are in emotional and psychological pain and discomfort. We provide them with a compassionate and welcoming space to express their pain with the hope of lightening the load and identifying strategies for care. Our physical wellness informs our mental comfort and we certainly want to be available for our clients. I would like to think of myself as a compassionate person. I know my clients certainly hold me to this standard. However, how do we offer compassion and promote self-care?

Here are a few tips to get you and your clients through this cold and flu season:

  1. Wash your hands frequently: The U.S. Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC) recommends thoroughly washing hands frequently throughout the day. If soap and water are not accessible, keep a bottle of alcohol-based hand sanitizer in your office and waiting area.
  2. Offer tissues: As counselors, we understand the comfort in a box of tissues. Be certain to have several boxes on hand for clients. Do not forget to also have multiple trash receptacles available.
  3. Keep fluids on hand: I offer my clients filtered water, coffee, hot chocolate, or tea. I like to keep a variety of teas including echinacea, peppermint, ginger and chamomile for their various soothing qualities. I also have local honey on hand.
  4. Assemble a care kit: Keep a care kit of lip balm (for yourself), lotion and hard candies. I keep separate hand lotion for clients by the sinks in my kitchenette and in the bathroom. I have a bowl of Key lime-flavored hard candy in my office and waiting areas. This extra effort can offer great comfort during the cold season.
  5. Disinfect your office: I spray my office at the beginning and end of my day with a natural disinfectant spray to eliminate possible contaminants. It cleanses the air and makes the office smell great.
  6. Use sanitary wipes to clean surfaces: I keep a container of sanitary wipes on hand to wipe down my phone, desktop, computer and the arms and backs of furniture. Body oils (and germs) can build up and remain on furniture.
  7. Clarify your cancellation policy: I inform my clients during the intake that I will waive the late cancellation fee for illness. I prefer that they stay home and rest rather than come into the office — for everyone’s sake.
  8. Consider offering teletherapy: I became a distance certified counselor (DCC) many years ago and provide phone and web-based counseling sessions under a variety of circumstances. Many of my clients opt for teletherapy when the weather is poor while caring for a sick relative, or when they are not feeling well but want the support of therapy. Counselors need not be certified to offer teletherapy, but I highly recommend it. Some insurance companies offer reimbursement for distance counseling, so check with your provider.


This time of year offers multiple challenges including colds and flu. As counselors, we can provide our clients with psychoeducation around the importance of self-care, rest, nutrition, exercise and fresh air. We can model good care by engaging in a healthy lifestyle. And, when we do succumb to the flu, we can demonstrate care by taking the time off to get the rest we need. We can offer compassion while promoting self-care.




Cheryl Fisher

Cheryl Fisher is a licensed clinical professional counselor in private practice in Annapolis, Maryland. She is affiliate faculty at Loyola and Fordham Universities. Her research interests include examining sexuality and spirituality in young women with advanced breast cancer; nature-informed therapy; and geek therapy. She may be contacted at cyfisherphd@gmail.com.








Opinions expressed and statements made in articles appearing on CT Online should not be assumed to represent the opinions of the editors or policies of the American Counseling Association.






The Counseling Connoisseur: New Year’s resolutions

By Cheryl Fisher January 12, 2018

“When the well is dry, we know the worth of the water.” — Benjamin Franklin


The holidays are over. The ornaments are boxed and put away. The tree is at the curb ready to be recycled for mulch. The eggnog and cookies are gone leaving behind only the memory as I tug my snug jeans over my more rounded hips. I sit back in my recliner and sip my holiday tea which offers hints of mocha and peppermint, evaluating this past year’s events.

It was a year filled with grief and transition: The death of a beloved pet, job transitions and surgeries. It was also a year of beginnings and opportunities: New speaking engagements, a book contract and a new academic position. In 2017, life continuously oscillated between joyous highs to devastating lows. What a ride!

I evaluated my self-care over this past year and (like many) I find I fell short in some areas. I exercise regularly and eat well, but I still don’t drink enough water. I overschedule, loving everything I have the privilege to do — but leaving little space for much needed quiet. I want to write more and that requires (at least for me) quiet and time. So, I put pen to paper and begin my process of resolving to offer myself better care in the New Year … and so it begins.


Wellness Wheel

The idea of self-care, although essential, tends to elude caregivers and those of us in the helping professions. We preach it to our clients. However, we become our own exception to the rules of wellness. Further, overall wellness encompasses all aspects of our life to include relationships and finances. The United States Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) has created a wellness model that includes eight dimensions that contribute to physical and mental health.

  1. Emotional

Helpers need help, at times, in processing difficult experiences. Recently, a grieving therapist-friend lamented: “We are all liars! We tell our clients all about grief and loss, assuring them that things get better … but they don’t!”

I allowed her to continue her disgruntled evaluation of the pain and suffering that accompanies grief and then asked, “So, you are saying that just because we as clinicians know the grief process we are not immune to the actual pain?”

We bleed just like any other human, I reminded her. We feel hurt, and pain — and we suffer. Even if we have an intellectual understanding of the process, we still must endure the journey.

What supports do you have in place? Who can you call upon for guidance? How are you coping with your life’s challenges?

  1. Environmental

Our internal wellness is informed by our external surroundings. When I decided to start a private practice, I created a vision around the environment in which I wanted to spend six to eight hours each day seeing clients. I thought of my favorite colors, turquoise and green, and the most peaceful setting: the beach. I went to my nearest Pier 1 Imports store and let the designer go to town picking out dark-stained wicker furniture with pillows and wall art of batik with inspirational hand-painted words such as love, inspire, believe, peace. I added a few pieces of sea glass and shells from my travels and voila!

How do your personal and professional environments support you? Do they offer a peaceful haven or chaos and disorganization?

  1. Financial

Financial wellness is an area that many individuals find difficult to examine. Early in my career I was barely making enough to pay my bills, let alone think about a portfolio. However, what I have learned is that seeking the expertise of a financial professional helped me begin to see how I could create a solid personal plan — even with meager beginnings. There are numerous resources that can help address your financial needs and help you develop a realistic plan. It is easier than you think!

How are you contributing to your financial health?

  1. Intellectual

We are creative beings. We need stimulation and imaginative ways to express and expand our knowledge and skills. For example, a year before ACA’s 2016 Conference & Expo in Montréal, I committed to learning a bit of French. I spent every morning rehearsing. My mother, who is French- Canadian, tested me as we ventured through the produce isle of a grocery store.  More recently, I became a student of backyard foraging. Yes, I walk the trails looking for bounty: wild berries, mushrooms, rose hips and greens. My passion for nature therapy ignites as I learn more about the intricate communication between the plants and animals. I get excited when I put together a delicious feast from my foraged treasure.

In what ways are you stimulating your mind?

  1. Occupational

I love my work! Each day I experience variety in client needs. I enjoy sharing theory and application with my students. Writing joins my clinical and academic work to complete my professional trifecta. I love my work so much that I often overschedule: I see 30 clients in my practice, I teach six classes for three universities, I am a national presenter, I have a column that I contribute to monthly, and now I have a book contract and a full-time university faculty offer. Clearly, something has to give (stay tuned!).

How does your occupation meet your needs? Are you satisfied with your work-life-balance? Or, like me, is it time for you to re-evaluate?

  1. Physical

Our bodies need attention. We need food, water, rest — and to be active. Exercise is such an important part of my life. I like to move. It feels good to sweat. Yet, I have an incredibly sedentary job — I sit all day long. In addition to my hour-long gym class, I’ve created movement throughout my day to mediate the effects of hours of sitting. Others with sedentary jobs are employing standing desks, or taking short walks around the office just to stretch. My Fitbit reminds me to attend to all of the elements of physical health.

How are you taking care of your physical wellness? Do you carry a water bottle to hydrate? Do you take walks regularly and get fresh air?

  1. Social

We are social creatures. Abraham Maslow pointed out decades ago that once the immediate needs of food, shelter and safety have been met, we need to feel like we belong. That sense of belonging comes from having the support of others. For some, family may not serve as a support system. While my family is a source of great support, I also like to create a network within my community. For example, when I moved to Annapolis (almost 20 years ago), I did drive-by visits to my most important sources of connection. I interviewed churches. I located gyms. I identified several coffee shops. I found dog parks and trails.  Clients have since told me about the Meetup.com concept of identifying groups of like-minded persons.

How is your social wellness?

  1. Spiritual

In The Gifts of Imperfection: Let Go of Who You Think You’re Supposed to Be and Embrace Who You Are, author and researcher Brené Brown writes:

“Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion.”

Research continues to find that experiencing the sacred provides us with wellness, healing, support and a sense of meaning.  Years ago, I helped my faith community start a Prayer Shawl Ministry (a spiritual practice that involves shawls that provide comfort and solace to those in need). As a card-carrying feminist, I am drawn toward the feminine sacred, even within traditional religious practices. So, it was such a great opportunity to convene with other women in meditation and click our needles together with intention as we crafted shawls for ill church members. Influenced by my Celtic heritage, I find beauty and the divine in natural settings. Engaging in nature is sacred for me and promotes moments of awe and wonder. It nourishes my spirit.


How do you cultivate awe and wonder in your life? What do you find sacred and meaningful? How do you craft opportunities to nourish your spiritual health?



It is a new year. A time to ponder past experiences and future dreams, re-evaluate relationships and let go of old habits and develop newer, more nourishing, ones. As I review my wellness wheel, I find that there are several areas with which I am pleased — and a few that I will choose to modify in order to bring greater balance to my rich, full life.


Be kind to your body, gentle with your mind and patient with your heart.

Stay true to your spirit, cherish your soul and never doubt yourself.

You are still becoming, my love, and there is no one more deserving

of the nurturing grace of your love.

“Kindness” -Becca Lee


Happy New Year!





Cheryl Fisher

Cheryl Fisher is a licensed clinical professional counselor in private practice in Annapolis, Maryland. She is affiliate faculty at Loyola and Fordham Universities. Her research interests include examining sexuality and spirituality in young women with advanced breast cancer; nature-informed therapy; and geek therapy. She may be contacted at cyfisherphd@gmail.com.








Opinions expressed and statements made in articles appearing on CT Online should not be assumed to represent the opinions of the editors or policies of the American Counseling Association.

The Counseling Connoisseur: Cultivating “awesomeness” (lessons from a snowflake)

By Cheryl Fisher December 21, 2017

“Find ecstasy in life; the mere sense of living is joy enough.” ― Emily Dickinson


I recently had a visit from my daughter, son-in-law and (almost) five-year-old grandson, Nicolas. They reside in Florida and in an attempt to make up for an absent Thanksgiving, we combined the holidays in one fun-filled long weekend. I wanted each day to be magical. I thoughtfully made my list of activities crafted to not only engage my active grandson, but to create memorable moments. We would go ice skating, bring home-baked gingerbread to our local police and fire stations, watch the boat parade of lights, go to church together and open our home to family and friends for holiday cheer.

In the week prior, Nicolas had submitted his one and only request. “Can we have snow, Yaya (his name for me)?” He longed for snow, having watched the Disney movie Frozen half a dozen times. I informed him that this was not my department, but I would certainly consider it. His prayers were answered, and on that Saturday morning flakes began to drift from the sky. We bundled up, grabbed Max, my golden doodle, and ventured out into this new phenomenon of snow. Nicolas tilted his head back and stuck out his tongue, then squealed, “I caught one, Yaya! It is yummy!” I laughed at my rosy-cheeked grandson whose eyes, wide as saucers, were gazing at the sky tracking the snow until it got close enough to lap up with his extended tongue. He chuckled with delight and clapped his mitten-clad hands with each conquest.

“I’m gonna make a snowball …and we are going to have a battle!” Nicolas declared as he scooped up a fistful of the white powder and threw it. Then he scooped another. He lapped and scooped our entire walk and challenged the remaining family, toasty warm and waiting at the house, to a game of snow football. We made snow angels, snow castles and snow cones. There was pure joy that emanated from my grandson on this early December snowfall. Some saw a cold, dreary, icky day, but Nicolas saw magic!

The Science of Awe and Wonder

According to neuropsychologist Paul Pearson, awe is our eleventh emotion. It is “an overwhelming and bewildering sense of connection with a startling universe that is usually far beyond the narrow band of consciousness.” Awe is transformative. It opens us to a world greater than ourselves. Research indicates that the experience of awe and wonder is accompanied by a sense of overall wellness. This is believed to be related to the decreasing levels of cytokines (proteins that stress the immune system). Conversely, elevated cytokines are associated with depression. Therefore, there is a direct impact on emotional and psychological wellbeing when exposed to awe-inspiring situations.

Not only is the experience of awe and wonder life-enhancing, the experience of awesomeness in life increases life satisfaction, generosity and empathy. One study found that when people attended to beautiful images of nature and plants (such as a sunset or a canyon) they became more generous and empathetic. Therefore, finding awe and wonder in daily life may promote not only one’s own experience of wellness, but perpetuate altruistic behavior, in general.

Ways to Wonder

In the busy, hustle and bustle of modern day living, the call to pause and take in the moment is evidenced by the plethora of literature beckoning us to mindful living. I recently overheard a mother in a grocery store lament to her disgruntled young son, “Life is hard…get used to it.” Well, life can be hard…but it can also be magical. In her book How to Live an Awesome Life, Polly Campbell writes: “There are awesome moments — the kind that cause our jaws to drop, tears to well up, and love and gratitude to pulse through our beings — right there in the middle of the congested, icky ones.”


Here are a few simple strategies to cultivate awe and wonder in your life.

  1. Unplug

The distraction of the digital world keeps us from noticing what it right in front of our noses. A few years ago, I was walking on the beach at dawn. This is one of my favorite times of the day: It is a fresh start, filled with possibility. I took a moment and sat on the cool sandy beach to watch as the new day peeked just beyond the horizon. Against the crashing waves, I saw the small fins of the dolphins taking their morning swim along the coast line. It was breathtaking!

I looked around to see if there might be someone who was also witnessing this enchanting scene. However, the scattering of passersby had their heads down, eyes glued to their phones.


  1. Practice mindful awareness

Practice becoming fully aware of your surrounding in any situation. Standing in line waiting for coffee? Practice. Stopped at a stop light? Practice. This involves slowing down and engaging all your senses. What do you hear? What do you see? What do you smell? Taste? How does your body feel? The focus shifts from doing to being — and being fully engaged in the moment.


  1. Be a creator, not a complainer

Things happen! Icky things happen! Creators look for the bigger picture and try to construct meaning around the situation. This promotes perspective and can diffuse malcontent (a joy-stealer).


  1. Show up!

Inspirational people — those who accomplish amazing things in their lives — note that the number one thing they did to change their lives was to simply show up. How often do we dream our dreams, only to dismiss them as impossibilities for any host of reasons? We fear failure — or worse, embarrassment.

My Floridian grandson donned his first pair of ice skates and giggled as he, his mother and his Yaya slipped along the edge of the rink clinging to the rails for safety. We gazed longingly at the people who glided gracefully across the sheet of ice as we scooted and scraped along the outer path. Nonetheless, our efforts were rewarded with my “special” hot cocoa topped with marshmallows, whipped cream and sprinkles. We will never know the wonder of achievement if we don’t take that first step — or slide, as it were.


  1. Store up the awesomeness

Create a journal or scrapbook of memories that created a sense of wonder and awe. As a counselor and lifelong storyteller, I enjoy capturing these moments in short essays accompanied by drawings or pictures. I don’t ever want to forget the experience of my daughters’ birth stories, or my daughter taking her wedding vows through tears and laughter, or the moment I stood in front of thousands of people and offered the graduation benediction realizing I was now a doctor, or touched my grandson through the basinet during the unnerving days he stayed in the NICU, or the scent of my beloved dog, Lily, while she took her final breaths.

An awesome life is made up of awesome moments, some joyful while others are filled with sadness. Store them and savor often.


  1. Share the wonder

Just as I had the uncanny desire to share that morning at the beach, many awesome moments are meant to be shared. Nicolas seized the snow-filled day and took his family with him as we re-kindled our childhood memories of snow play and crafted more to add to my never-ending collection of essays.



During this holiday season take the time to experience awe and wonder. Henri Nouwen wrote, “Joy does not simply happen to us. We have to choose joy and keep choosing it every day.”

We have to look for the wonder, seek the astounding and be open to the beauty, so that we may, like Nicolas, find magic in a simple snowflake.



Cheryl Fisher

Cheryl Fisher is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in private practice in Annapolis, Maryland. She is Affiliate Faculty for Loyola and Fordham Universities. Her research interests include examining sexuality and spirituality in young women with advanced breast cancer; Nature-informed therapy: and Geek Therapy. She may be contacted at cyfisherphd@gmail.com.







Opinions expressed and statements made in articles appearing on CT Online should not be assumed to represent the opinions of the editors or policies of the American Counseling Association.

The Counseling Connoisseur: Mental health cleanup following a natural disaster

By Cheryl Fisher September 14, 2017

“The sole meaning of life is to serve humanity.” ~ Leo Tolstoy


As I sit on my patio, warmed by the early autumn sun, I breathe in the alchemy of rosemary, thyme and oregano and a variety of mints — aromas from my herb garden. The squirrels chatter as they scamper across the trapezelike branches of the old maple and majestic oaks that provide me with shade and provide entertainment to a variety of creatures. Blue jays, robins and cardinals flit back and forth, foraging end-of-the-season strawberries. Finches hover overhead just long enough to steal a sunflower seed (or two) from the heads of the long stalks that have faded and now hang low. It is a beautiful September morning.

Yet, several hours away, nature has taken a different turn, spinning up water and winds of 185 mph, decimating lands and destroying lives. Hurricanes Harvey, Irma and Jose have created havoc on the Gulf and East Coasts, while fires have engulfed the West. An earthquake has devastated parts of Mexico. In each instance, homes have been lost and families separated. The same Mother Nature that offers me such solace during this early morning has wreaked havoc elsewhere.

As with any traumatic experience, I seek meaning, attempting to make some sense out of these tragedies. I try to identify who is to blame for such suffering and loss. Finding very little peace from my efforts, I turn to what I know best. I dive into my counseling toolbox for guidance and I DO something.


1) Volunteer

As mental health professionals, we offer skills that are much needed in cultivating calm and defusing crises. We can help by listening to the narratives of survivors, validating their experiences and providing tools for immediate coping. We can provide basic care and help them reconnect with loved ones. I have been a disaster mental health volunteer for the American Red Cross (redcross.org/take-a-class/disaster-training) for decades. (The American Counseling Association is an official American Red Cross disaster mental health partner organization.) It is a privilege to serve in local and national deployments. Additionally, we can assist local efforts through church or club affiliations. I am a member of the Maryland Responds Medical Corp, and I support the efforts of my faith affiliation.


2) Contribute to resource efforts

There have been many times when I have been unable to deploy. This is extremely frustrating because part of my healing is feeling that I have DONE something to help. I have found that numerous organizations accept both supplies and monetary contributions. Participating in these efforts allows me to feel that I have been actively involved in the effort toward recovery.


3) Gather with like-minded/like-hearted people

Being in the company of other compassionate advocates can lighten the load. Sharing the emotional burden may not only provide ease but may also promote collaboration and generation of innovative recovery strategies. For example, a group may want to craft a GoFundMe page, create a local fundraiser or organize an event in memory of those who were lost and in honor of the survivors.


4) Pray or hold intention

Regardless of one’s faith or belief system, lifting prayer and good intentions on behalf of another is an active service of compassion and kindness. It is (excuse the double negative) “not nothing.” In addition to a faith-based perspective, prayer and intention place the person or people in the forefront of our thoughts, reminding us of our connection with all humanity regardless of nation, culture, ethnicity, creed, age, gender, sexual identification or able-bodiedness.


5) Seek help

As advocates and first responders, we are not immune to the effects of tragedies. Viewing hours of social media in anticipation of the storm’s arrival, watching the desperate efforts of firefighters dousing the flaming forests of Washington and Oregon, or seeing the devastation in the Caribbean can take its toll on even the most resilient counselor. Seek professional help to aid in the development of strategies to provide nourishment and sustenance while buffering the abrasive nature of responding to traumatic events.



Nature provides us with endless sources of joy, wisdom and companionship. However, there are times — as with any living force — when disaster strikes. Counselors can contribute to the recovery plan in numerous ways that cultivate a sense of unity and community. It is a privilege to serve in times of need.


Satellite photo of Hurricane Katrina on August 28, 2005.




Cheryl Fisher

Cheryl Fisher is a licensed clinical professional counselor in private practice in Annapolis, Maryland. She is affiliate faculty for Loyola and Fordham Universities. Her research interests include examining sexuality and spirituality in young women with advanced breast cancer, nature-informed therapy and geek therapy. Contact her at cyfisherphd@gmail.com.










Opinions expressed and statements made in articles appearing on CT Online should not be assumed to represent the opinions of the editors or policies of the American Counseling Association.

The Counseling Connoisseur: The canvas of counseling

By Cheryl Fisher August 17, 2017

“My life has been a tapestry of rich and royal hue, an everlasting vision of the ever-changing view.” ~ Carole King

Summertime often brings opportunities to gather with family and friends. Over grilled goodies and cold beverages, we wallow away the hours, reminiscing of old and fabricating new visions and ventures. It was during one such event that the conversation turned toward the topics of careers, financial advisers and retirement.

My husband and I have differing views around the idea of retirement. He has wanted to live a life of leisure from the time I met him in his early 30s. I, however, have fallen madly and hopelessly in love with my vocation and can’t imagine a life without a clinical practice … or academic appointment … or literary presence … or speaking opportunities … or … Well, you get the idea. I am smitten.

When asked why I am so devoted to the cause, however, I fumble and stammer. “Well, we help people! And there’s never a dull moment. And …” — I finally concede — “I don’t actually know.”

After meditating on the question, I have arrived at six possible answers (beyond the obvious altruism of the craft):


1) Diversity. My counseling career extends over several decades and has taken me from work in geriatrics to hospice care and bereavement. As a young counselor, my elderly and terminal clients offered me wisdom around aging well and examining life fulfillment. I have made midnight runs, pumping with adrenaline, as I responded to survivors of rape and we attempted to untangle the multiple violations they had experienced, both from their perpetrators and the systems designed to help survivors. I have gone into school systems and witnessed an entire faculty and administration rally around young children whose home lives left an abysmal track of trauma and abuse. I have watched couples choose to remain together despite a breach of vows. I have witnessed the selfless act of a young mother relinquishing her parental rights in an attempt to offer her newborn baby a life that she could not provide while struggling with addiction. I have counseled in clinics, hospitals and hospices and, over the past decade, have settled into a more routine private practice. Each placement offered me rich and varied clientele, experiences and life lessons.

2) Flexibility. Counseling requires flexibility. Agendas are fluid and cocreated with the client. And let’s face it … you never know what your client will present in session. So we wait in anticipation, realizing that counseling is a dance perfected between therapist and client, but that each client brings her or his own footwork to the session. The counselor must be versed in a variety of dance steps and be willing to freestyle when it is appropriate.

In addition to the flexible nature of the counseling session, counseling hours are rarely 9-to-5. Instead, being a counselor often requires evening or weekend availability. It’s hardly a banker’s workday; we must be prepared to navigate inconsistent schedules that may include a crisis call or hospitalization. At the same time, not being locked down by a set schedule also allows for an occasional two-hour lunch with an old friend, a midday stroll, a hair appointment or even a nap.

3) Contemplative practice. I don’t know of any other career that promotes (requires) reflexivity. We are encouraged to “do our own work” and continue to examine the dynamics that occur in the counseling session. We process our feelings and thoughts not only in relation to our clients but also around our personal experiences that are occurring simultaneously. Is our countertransference therapeutically employed or hindering the therapeutic alliance? Have we devoted time to our own processes?

I remember coming home one night following a very long day and beginning a processing session (de-identifying my clients, of course) with my husband the engineer. We have been married long enough for him to know that he is not being asked to FIX anything when I process. However, at the end of my discourse, my husband just shook his head and asked, “Doesn’t all this thinking tire you out?” I laughed and responded, “No, it’s actually one of the things I love most about my work!” As Irvin Yalom wrote in his novel The Spinoza Problem, “[Counseling] is a strange field because, unlike any other field of medicine, you never really finish. Your greatest instrument is you, yourself, and the work of self-understanding is endless.”

4) Community. It is true: We counselors are a curious people. As such, we benefit from other similar-minded and like-hearted folks. We seek each other out through conferences, workshops and supervision. Through the years, our practices and the clients we serve also become extensions of our community. After all, we journey with our clients during their most vulnerable times, including in the aftermath of cancer diagnoses, struggles with substance abuse, marital affairs, deaths, divorces and other instances of devastation. We create community in the most unlikely of places through our work on disaster teams and travel to locations where unspeakable traumatic events have occurred. We are experts at building community.

5) Creativity. The field of counseling is broad enough to embrace the creative in practice. Counselors welcome the creative, as evidenced by the fact that I will be presenting workshops on “Superhero Therapy 101” and “Homegrown Psychotherapy: Nature-Enhanced Counseling” at the Association for Creativity in Counseling’s national conference in September. (The Association for Creativity is a division of the American Counseling Association.)

In addition to a slew of creative practices, our clinical canvas includes other modalities of service to the field that may include mentoring and supervising neophyte counselors. It is a privilege to be part of the skill-building of hope-generating newbies whose desire to help others supersedes their own discomfort around presenting their clinical work in class.

Furthermore, opportunities exist to contribute to the field through research, writing and presentions at conferences. And if that isn’t enough, there is a plethora of administrative and advocacy roles to serve the many affiliations that support the counseling field. This profession offers endless creative avenues for practice and service.

6) Mystery. Psychologist, researcher, author and educator Kenneth Pargament, in his book Spiritually Integrated Psychotherapy: Understanding and Addressing the Sacred, wrote, “Spirituality is an extraordinary part of the ordinary lives of people. … It manifests in life’s turning points, revealing mystery and depth. … It is interwoven into the fabric of the everyday. We can find it in music, the smile of a passing stranger, the color of the sky at dusk or a daily prayer of gratitude upon awakening.”

Although counselors employ strong evidence-based standards of practice, pastoral counselors (in particular) are cognizant of the mystery in our work and in the therapeutic process. That mystery can be found in the experience of when, having exhausted all tools in the clinical toolbox and feeling incredibly ineffective, a random question pops into your head. Having nothing to lose, you pose the question to your client, which results in a flood of emotional release (or an epiphany of sorts) that propels the session toward healing.

The counseling experience is filled with the unknown and the sacred — mysteries of interaction between human and divine. It is that experience of mystery that I have trusted when positioned with a client in the cesspool of tragedy and despair, knowing that the light will shine … eventually … again.



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Counseling has served me well over the past 25 years. I embrace counseling and counselor education as vocations filled with integrity, diversity, flexibility, community and creativity. Counseling is a field that promotes continued personal growth as well as professional competence and humility. Counseling recognizes the beautiful mystery that at times transcends logic.

A colleague described her experience as a counselor as “a quilt of many shades and hues that converge together in a beautiful tapestry.” It is a tapestry of many threads, woven over time and accommodating the varied fabrics of a lifetime — of my lifetime. Retirement? I think not, for I have only just begun!




Why do you enjoy being a counselor? Let me know. And don’t forget to stop by the Association for Creativity in Counseling 2017 Conference, Sept. 8-9, in Clearwater Beach, Florida, and visit me at “Superhero Therapy 101” and “Homegrown Psychotherapy: Nature-Enhanced Counseling.”



Cheryl Fisher

Cheryl Fisher is a licensed clinical professional counselor in private practice in Annapolis, Maryland. She is affiliate faculty for Loyola and Fordham Universities. Her research interests include examining sexuality and spirituality in young women with advanced breast cancer, nature-informed therapy and geek therapy. She will be presenting “Superhero Therapy 101” and “Homegrown Psychotherapy: Nature-Enhanced Counseling” at the Association for Creativity in Counseling Conference in September. Contact her at cyfisherphd@gmail.com.











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