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My First Day in Treatment

Tony Foster November 28, 2011

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Having recently celebrated nine years of sobriety, I’ve been reflecting on my early days in this journey.  Although I went to treatment for alcoholism three times in a seven-month period it was only the third time that I went by choice.  The first time I went was at the behest of my family along with a Baker Act.  As you might imagine, I wasn’t excited about being in treatment and giving up alcohol.  Consequently, I did my twenty-eight days and stayed sober exactly five days.  I then began drinking outside AA meetings and going into them under the influence.

Soon after that my wife went to court to have me committed under Florida’s Marchman Act.  A judge signed off that I was a danger to society and myself, and off I went to treatment again.  This time I was even less excited about investing a month of my life into doing something I didn’t want to do.  I decided that since I was a grown man nobody was going to tell me when I could or couldn’t drink.  In my sick mind I had not hurt anyone so why should I have to stop?  Treatment was uneventful and I drank on the 28th day on my way home from treatment.  Imagine my surprise when I got home and found my house completely empty, except for an easy chair and a television.  Believe it or not, I thought I had won the lottery.  Now I could drink with impunity.  No wife or kid around to stop me.  That lasted about six weeks.

During those six weeks the only thing I ate was one bag of M & Ms per day that my wife brought me.  She hadn’t completely given up on me though, she just couldn’t live with me like that.  In any case, during those six weeks I lost sixty-five pounds.  Then one day she came over and out of the blue I said to her “I’m done, I want to stop drinking”.  What I didn’t know then was that I suddenly had something that I never had before, a desire to stop drinking.  Alcoholics Anonymous says that the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.  I finally qualified.  I said to my wife, “I’m going to go to treatment and do everything they tell me to do”.  I opened the phone book and found an alcohol and drug treatment facility in Delray Beach.  That decision changed my life in more ways than I can count.  It literally saved me from a painful, premature death.

My start in treatment was inauspicious, at best.  On the appointed day of my intake my wife drove me there at about 8:30 in the morning.  I had been drinking until 4 AM.  The owner did not want me to stay because he thought I needed detox.  My wife begged him to let me stay and capped her pleading and crying with “we need a miracle”.  That’s what treatment became for me, a miracle.

Like many treatment facilities, this one uses a twelve-step model to help patients get and stay sober.  But they did much more than that for me.  Alcoholics Anonymous tells us that drinking is but a symptom of underlying issues that are going on.  Treatment, for me, focused on that over a twenty-eight day program.  However, how they did it was so unique.  First, this particular treatment center only sixteen beds so they never have more than sixteen patients.  For these sixteen patients they have five licensed therapists.  I doubt you’ll find that kind of ratio anywhere else in the country.  They also have a full and a part time chef.  Like most other new patients I showed up undernourished and with terrible (or no) eating habits.  In fact, I was so undernourished that all my toenails had fallen out.  The great food the chefs cooked took care of that.  But besides the food and the therapists it was what I was taught that really helped me when I got out.

I was taught that I was feeling a lot of guilt and shame for what my life had become and how I had squandered a family and my own potential.  I learned that there is a grieving process to quitting drinking and that I had to now feel things that in the past I would always drown with vodka.  I had to learn how to live my life one day at a time without a drink.  But I believe the reason I am sober today is that I learned “Toothbrush Therapy”.

Toothbrush Therapy is a method taught at this particular treatment center which gives one a daily routine that helps a recovering alcoholic or drug addict stay sober.  I can still remember one of the therapists saying “if you follow the simple directions and do these five things every day I guarantee you, you will never drink again”.  The first time I heard that I was beside myself.  You’ve got to be kidding, I thought.  In fact, it was early in treatment that I heard it the first time and like a good alcoholic I was going to prove the professional wrong.  Well guess what, not only was I wrong, I’ve been doing it now for over nine years and I haven’t had a drink yet.

Toothbrush Therapy is named because it is designed in a way that it is used as you would brushing your teeth.  You get in a routine for personal grooming and such and Toothbrush Therapy establishes a routine.  It takes into account that alcoholics and drug addicts are creatures of habit, usually bad ones.  But if we really want to be sober Toothbrush Therapy makes it pretty simple.  You just have to do it every day.  Does that seem like a lot?  Well, I drank every day from the moment I woke up until I passed out.  I was either buying alcohol or consuming it every waking hour.  Toothbrush Therapy can be done in as little as one hour and forty-five minutes per day.  Now, if you really want to stay sober that seems like a very small requirement to me.  If you can’t invest that much time in your sobriety and saving your life then you really don’t want to be sober.  I decided to condense Toothbrush Therapy to one sheet that I could refer to all the time.  This made it even simpler.  In short, I pray at the beginning and end of each day.  I also meditate every day.  I follow that up with reading four pages of AA, or other recovery literature.  Then I go to a meeting every day.  I also have a support group of recovering people who I talk to every day.  Finally, at the end of every day I write a gratitude list in the manner of a letter to God (my higher power).  In the letter I thank him for five things in my life for which I am grateful.  That’s the end of Toothbrush Therapy for that day.  As the therapist told me, “follow the simple directions” and it works.

To complete this circle, I ultimately went back to school because I became passionate about helping other alcoholics and addicts.  After four years I received dual Master’s degrees specializing in Mental Health and Rehab Counseling.  I was able to do my Internship at the place where I got sober, and today I’m a counselor/therapist there.  Finally, a year and a half ago I began a doctorate program that has led me to an even deeper understanding of the underlying problems of alcoholics and drug addicts.  With all that’s happened in my life I still keep sobriety as my number one priority, and in order to succeed at that I continue to do Toothbrush Therapy every day.

Tony Foster is the director of therapy at the Beachcomber Outpatient Services Treatment Center in Delray Beach, Fla. He holds a dual master’s degree in mental health and rehabilitation counseling and is currently pursuing a doctorate degree in mental health at Florida Atlantic University.

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  1. Frederick Garver, Certified Addictions Professional

    I am one of the 5 therapists who were employed in the facility in Delray Beach that Tony Foster attended over 9 years ago.. As he stated inh his article, he entered treatment in order to prove that treatment does not work. Quite a surprise to Tony. Not only did treatment work but he realized that he must work as well. And work he did. He has been a most positive influence to dozens upon dozens of recovering persons in South Florida in the past 9 years.
    I am extremely proud to have Tony as a friend as well as a business associate.
    Fred Garver, CAP, ICADC

  2. ivy


    You are a bright and beautiful man …. I know how kind you are to all those around you….Thank you for your willingness and honesty to.write this article. It allowed me to know you on a different level on our clean and sober growing up journey …..may you and KJ always appreciate each other ……

    Your article proved thought provoking as I remembered my early days in recovery….29 years ago, at 27 years old ( you do the math) I first walked through the doors of Alonon b/c of “Him” lol . I knew in my heart that I did not belong upstairs in this meeting but rather downstairs with all the addicts and alcoholics I truly identified with. The rooms in Manhattan and Brooklyn gave my hope that perhaps someday I too could live without the daily need for a drup or drink to take me away from myself and my thoughts….I so wanted to be comfortable in my own skin and of course never knew what that was. My deepest desire has always been to love the woman I am.. ( whoever that woman is at any given moment …(.before I embraced my authentic self) I sat shaking, crying and sweating night after night in fear. God entered my soul much later, of course…..thank god that day came.

    Peace and Love,

  3. Wendy

    Thank you from the bottom of my heart for making the choice to pursue this as a career. A major part of my recovery is because I was in The Beachcomber and had fantastic therapists to help me see that I had a disease and make me realize that I had a choice to make, whether to go on giving in to it or fighting like hell against it. I chose to live like I was taught on a daily basis and my life is unimaginably good. I now have a super marriage and family back that I never thought was possible. The friends I have made in the program are the best. Thanks again Tony


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