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Reflecting on Nelson Mandela

Compiled by Bethany Bray December 17, 2013

South-Africa-heart When South African President Jacob Zuma announced that Nelson Mandela had died Dec. 5, he said, “Our people have lost a father.”

Mandela, South Africa’s first black president and champion of human rights, leaves behind a legacy of reconciliation. His message and inspiration have rippled across the globe, including in the counseling profession.

“Mr. Mandela will be missed, but we who remain are given an extraordinary opportunity to carry on his mission of reconciliation — not just in South Africa but here in the U.S. as well,” says American Counseling Association President Cirecie West-Olatunji.

Mandela passed away at age 95. An anti-apartheid activist who spent 27 years in prison, he was awarded the Nobel Peace Prize in 1993.

West-Olatunji, a professor at the University of Cincinnati, led groups of counselors on outreach trips to South Africa in 2007 and 2009. In 2009, the group heard Mandela speak at a birthday celebration for the beloved leader in Johannesburg.

“It was a beautiful moment in time that I will never forget,” West-Olatunji says. “More importantly, I cherished the fact that I shared this moment with my students and colleagues.”

West-Olatunji wrote the following remembrance of Mandela and his legacy.


My knowledge of Nelson Mandela began in the 1980s with my awareness of the work of Randall Robinson and his TransAfrica organization as part of the global Free Mandela movement. As a recent graduate from college, I was curious and very much identified with the freedom movement in South Africa, as it mirrored the civil rights campaign here at home. I tried to learn as much as I could about South Africa. I read Cry, the Beloved Country and saw the musical Sarafina! on Broadway. Later, as a parent, I shared my understanding of South Africa’s history with my children. I remember watching an after-school special on television, The Color of Friendship (2000), with my daughter who was 12 years old at the time. It was about the relationship between an African American girl and the exchange student who comes to live in her home, a girl from apartheid South Africa.

I never imagined that in 2007 and 2009, I would lead outreach delegations to South Africa and Botswana. We toured sites in and around Johannesburg such as the Apartheid Museum, Hector Pieterson Museum, Nelson Mandela’s home where he and Winnie raised their children and Robben Island off of the coast of Cape Town. I find it very hard to describe the visit to the Apartheid Museum. We cried, we hugged, we talked and we prayed. We sat alone and mourned the loss of not just Nelson Mandela but all of the political prisoners and the oppressed. We were horrified when confronted with the inhuman acts and rejoiced in the triumph of reconciliation. The experience was overwhelming and somewhat disorienting for most of us.

The visit to the Hector Pieterson Museum caused less of a visceral response but was no less disheartening. To read about and view the artifacts from the Soweto uprising (1976) was difficult to accept. It reminded me of the school-aged children in the South who marched and boycotted their schools, challenging the ideals of “separate but equal.”

Walking through Nelson Mandela’s home was awe-inspiring. We talked in hushed tones as we read every plaque on the walls and squinted at the photos on display. It was an honor and a privilege to be there. However, nothing prepared us for the trip to Robben Island.

I think that everyone in the U.S. should take a trip to Robben Island to see where Nelson Mandela was imprisoned. Our tour guide was a former political prisoner who shared time there with Nelson Mandela. He spoke of the lessons that he learned under Mr. Mandela’s leadership, even in prison. Nelson Mandela taught him to maintain his dignity as a human being and to continue to work against oppression, toward the political liberation of South African people. Our tour guide shared with us that, after being released from prison, he stayed on the island and now lives next door to one of his former prison guards, now a friend. The delegation members discussed this idea of reconciliation at length that evening and many evenings thereafter. We realized that Nelson Mandela had planted a seed that was (re)humanizing.

When I returned to South Africa and Botswana in 2009 with a new delegation of counselors, we had the opportunity to actually celebrate Nelson Mandela’s birthday in a public square in Johannesburg with ordinary people who came to honor a legend. There were many politicians and community organizers there who spoke and, then, to everyone’s surprise, Nelson Mandela himself stepped to the podium to thank us all for coming in his honor. The crowd went wild with joy. We danced together and hugged strangers and became part of the sea of well-wishers. It was a beautiful moment in time that I will never forget. More importantly, I cherished the fact that I shared this moment with my students and colleagues.

Mr. Mandela will be missed, but we who remain are given an extraordinary opportunity to carry on his mission of reconciliation — not just in South Africa but here in the U.S. as well.




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Bethany Bray is a staff writer for Counseling Today. Contact her at

Revisiting Man’s Search for Meaning

Edward L. Oriole December 13, 2013

Search BookEvery other month, the print version of Counseling Today includes a section called Pages of Influence in which counselors discuss the books that have shaped them personally, professionally and philosophically. Since the section’s debut roughly a year ago, Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl has repeatedly been named on these counselors’ lists of “most influential” books.

Edward L. Oriole understands why.

“Although Man’s Search for Meaning is well known, I often return to it when I need to be reminded about the indomitable human spirit,” says the licensed clinical professional counselor of the masterwork first published in 1946.

Read Oriole’s argument for why Man’s Search for Meaning belongs on the bookshelf of most influential books for counselors, and then share what books have most influenced your thought and development as a counselor by posting a comment to this article.




Picture yourself browsing the titles at your favorite bookstore. One title in particular catches your eye and piques your curiosity: Man’s Search for Meaning. Who among us has not wondered privately about that search?

If your interest persists, pick up the slim volume and scan its table of contents. Depending on the edition you have chosen, the first important entry may be the preface by the eminent Harvard University professor Gordon Allport. He writes, “I recommend this most readily. For it is a gem of a narrative focused on the deepest of human problems.”

If you continue, you will note that Man’s Search for Meaning has endured to see more than 100 printings in English — in addition to having been printed into 21 languages. If your interest in the “deepest of human problems” persists, you will want to learn more about the book’s author, Viktor Frankl.

Frankl was born in Vienna, Austria, in 1905. He and his wife were arrested and interned by the Nazis in 1938. Eventually Frankl was transferred to death camp Auschwitz and then the infamous Dachau. The first part of the book is a compelling narrative of the events that took the lives of Frankl’s wife, mother, father and brother. Part One ends with Frankl’s liberation by the American army in 1945. Part Two examines what Frankl did with his seared sense of self after the liberation.

If you find that a narrative on the indomitable human spirit interests you, follow Frankl’s creation of logotherapy.  Consider the model’s premise that “When we can no longer change a situation, we are challenged to change ourselves.”

This book is for those individuals who are tired of the phony, insincere Hollywood depictions of heroism. Man’s Search for Meaning is for those eager to engage in an authentic heroic experience and the inherent life lessons taken from unspeakable horror.

Frankl concludes that “The world is in a bad state, but everything will become still worse unless each of us do our best.” When I first read this book, I was at once comforted and then challenged. Buy this book if shallow thinking and consumerism disturb you. Underline the parts that move you. Ponder what the quotes by Spinoza and Nietzsche mean. Reread it next year and ask yourself if you have lived up to the responsibility that Frankl says is the other half of freedom.




Edward L. Oriole is a licensed clinical professional counselor and nationally certified counselor on the staff at the Lighthouse Emotional Wellness Center ( in Arlington Heights, Ill.




Is Man’s Search for Meaning on your “must read” list of books for counselors? What other books belong on that shelf? Leave your comments below.




ACA needs school counselors in high-risk schools

December 11, 2013

Are you an American Counseling Association member who works as a school counselor in a high-risk school? Then ACA and high-risk students across the country need your help.

ACA has partnered with the American Psychological Association to implement the Safe and Supportive Schools Project (SSSP). Funded by the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, the project will promote the establishment of safe and supportive school environments for all students and school staff as an approach for preventing HIV and other sexually transmitted infections for adolescents.

Selected ACA school counselors will review resources and provide implementation guidance for interventions that school counselors, school nurses, school psychologists and school social workers can use to establish safe and supportive school environments in their school districts. The time commitment involves approximately 15 hours between February and August 2014. No travel will be necessary.

For more information, contact ACA Chief Professional Officer David Kaplan at

Multicultural counseling with the immigrant and refugee communities

By Shabnam Etemadi December 4, 2013

Smiling Hispanic Girl Studying“New word” is the empathic statement I find myself frequently using with my ninth-grade refugee group. As I attempt to explain what emotions are and as I ask each student how they are feeling today, I teach them a new word. That word being “mood.” When we discuss “stereotypes” and “bullying,” they are also learning these words along with the concepts. I receive looks of confusion when I encourage the students to partake in positive affirmation activities or activities to increase their “self-esteem” (another new word for many of these students).

These students continually challenge me. They question the relevance of counseling because mental health is not an aspect of their development that has been emphasized previously in any way. As a counselor trainee, I wondered how I could impact their psychological well-being when we faced a lingual barrier, a cultural barrier and time limitations each week.

As I have grown with the students throughout my internship, I have learned that there is universally power in their stories, both collectively and individually. Their shyness to share and to speak in group with their minimal English creates a soft, whispered effort to disclose issues and fears. As the facilitator, I use enthusiasm and a “thank you” to create a safe space where they may be empowered to speak. I suddenly realize that I am mimicking the works of their teachers, using the white board to spell feeling words so they can complete that session’s worksheets. I then tend to each dyad, explaining the group activity several times.

Unfortunately, my Gestalt, experiential techniques are typically tossed aside because group members feel more comfortable reading out loud what they wrote on worksheets. I have noticed that the members who are more proficient in English are better able and more likely to open up to the group. As we close the group, the idea to share their feelings or reflections of an activity may be limited to “Did you like the activity today?” These are just a few of the counseling techniques I have modified so these group members can experience the power of counseling.

In the afterschool program with immigrant and refugee students in middle school, the group members show interest in what I am about to present. They eagerly share the “Road Map of My Story” worksheet and the “Name Game” compliments they received. They clap after each person shares and cheer for their friends to take their turn rather than to pass. They, too, find comfort in the use of the white board, in having items written down before sharing and in learning new words each time I visit. These linguistic tools facilitate their connection to the program and to each other. Their experience is being shaped by these counseling terms; they have acquired novel methods of gaining and perceiving self-awareness in light of these newly learned concepts.

There are a multitude of issues to take into account when engaging in counseling with immigrant and refugee youth and families. Individual counseling with immigrants with limited English proficiency reveals that aspects of cognitive behavior therapy can be influential, but journaling in that person’s native language is preferred. Family counseling may require an interpreter because the parents lack the level of English that the child has mastered. Additionally, the technicalities of counseling are altered. For example, when working with adolescent immigrant youth, the child confirms or cancels appointments and makes decisions regarding mental health concerns more often than the parents. This can happen for a mixture of reasons but primarily is due to lingual hindrances for the parents.

Another focal area of counseling with this population is bicultural stress. This concept plays a role in every family interaction at diverse degrees and influences both parents’ and children’s understanding of the world and themselves. Although they may be open to receiving counseling, this population is embedded in more than one culture, and these cultures may have conflicting values. Parents often prefer that an authoritative counselor work with their child because, based on their viewpoint of counseling, that is culturally appropriate. Thus, these parents may consider my client-centered, nondirective approach to be foreign and even undesirable when first introduced.

In comparison with group work, individual counseling can allow for more disclosure and advancement in the counseling process for this population. This can be due to lingual issues or to the stigma that some cultures associate with mental health issues. Individual counseling with an unbiased stranger can provide immigrants and refugees the opportunity they need to question the norms of anxiety, depression and trauma-based memories. Countless times, clients from different cultures have shared with me the relief they gain upon learning how common or expected their issues are. As a counselor trainee, my professional development and approach in helping multicultural clientele has been heavily structured by these cultural experiences and realizations.

As an immigrant myself, I have intervened with the perspective of how I would have liked to have been helped by a counselor or other helping professional throughout my development as a bicultural student. I know that my struggles are unique and that my story holds value for me. I implement this outlook in my work with each group member or individual client. This is a form of empathy. This personal disclosure in my work creates an instant connection from one fellow immigrant to another.

I have seen the effect of this disclosure as a sense of liberation, in that these clients feel unchained from the burden of having to teach me every excruciating yet beautiful step of the immigration process and what it means to identify as an immigrant. I can use my understanding to build a space where we can examine a shared understanding of the emotional impacts of this process and where they can also feel personally and culturally validated through this awareness of their experiences on a broader communal level.

This is what motivated me to go into the field and to advocate for this population. This is the reason I am writing this article. For those counselors taking a multicultural approach who may not be immigrants, we all can benefit from the experiences of one another. By sharing our stories, we reciprocate to the counseling community.

Multicultural learning approaches must be mindful not to diminish the power of an individual’s journey. Academic understanding about collectivism, the ecological perspective and stressors involved in immigration are key elements, but they are not skills. Skills are built by interacting with these communities and adapting activities or therapeutic techniques to best serve clients. With this population, culture may or may not play an active role in how individuals make sense of their lives and experiences.

Regardless of whether culture plays a role, counselors cannot presume that clients will immediately be willing to share their experiences with them. Stories may be painful to share, or an individual may deem disclosure of such secrets unnecessary. Each client heals differently. Some have shown improvement in one session just by disclosure of a traumatic event, others simply by being surrounded by and receiving support from others who have endured similar pains. Then there are those who are healed purely by arriving in America — the place that is not home, but that has freed them from the turmoil in their countries of origin. There are a number of possible journeys in the healing processes of these clients, making experiential learning essential for counselors’ understanding of how to take an individualized care approach, while still taking culture into account.

Each of us immigrated for different reasons. Those original reasons may or may not reflect our lived experiences, but our identities are nonetheless largely rooted in the concept of being an immigrant or a refugee. Counseling can nurture this population through its open-ended nature. Counseling can one day be a worksheet on respect and self-care, and the next, an opportunity to share one’s fears and sadness about leaving home. Counseling is transformable and flexible. It has the strength to empower immigrants and refugees who in their cultures may not have been exposed to a helping service. It provides an opportunity to learn about and use indispensable tools for fostering growth and positive outcomes amidst the undeniable challenges faced.

Success stories include the quiet, young Nepali who finally spoke up in voicing stereotypes about this culture in group work, the older Mexican individual who continues to restructure negative thoughts to positive ones in a journal, and the immigrant dealing with an illness who now has the necessary resources to deal with its impacts. I have entered schools, community centers, churches and various agencies and conducted home visits because counseling allows me to travel. I do not need an office to help people. I need my counseling bag created in practicum and revised through internship to be an advocate, a counselor trainee, a fellow immigrant and, most significantly, a helping professional.

Among the lessons I have taken away from my experiences as an intern:

  • Resources are lacking for this population. A systems-of-care approach, which some clinics utilize, is advantageous for building resource capacity and a coordinated systems response to this population’s needs.
  • Refugees are easier to access because they typically are part of state-funded programs and may be placed in homogenous residential areas (for example, in apartments).
  • Counseling is often a foreign concept to many immigrants and refugees. Therefore, counselors seem to lack a serious role within these communities.
  • The value of emotional expression may not be a familiar or welcomed experience by some cultures. In fact, it may be viewed as unnecessary.
  • Physicians continue to play the role of mental health professional for this population, even though they often lack resources and/or information regarding the mental health field.
  • Schools and/or school-based programs are a highly effective avenue for counselors to become involved and play a role in the mental health of this population.
  • Do not be afraid to help those individuals who are learning English or whose accent is difficult to understand. They, too, can benefit from counseling. You can use an interpreter or refer out, but try to help in some way.
  • This population tends to deem components of narrative therapy and cognitive behavior therapy as helpful due to the processes of telling their stories and combating cognitive distortions.
  • Learn from these individuals who have stories to tell. You can help them find their voice with patience, encouragement and creativity.



Shabnam Etemadi is a clinical mental health counseling student in the professional counseling program at Middle Tennessee State University. She will be graduating with her master’s degree later this month. Contact her at or