The fact that counselors are, by nature, helpers and are often willing to give freely of their time does not mean that they should be treated unfairly as a labor force.
Rather than labeling hesitant clients as “resistant,” counselors should check their assumptions, work to better understand the underlying reasons and barriers these clients face, and double down on unconditional positive regard.
Counselors who work with men have the opportunity to facilitate a greater clarity on their desired self-definitions, on the roles they play in their spheres of influence, and on the quality of their relationships, striving toward greater authenticity and multidimensionality.
When you are in the present moment, you are not waiting for the next moment to be fulfilling or happy.
Many people spend their working lives dreaming of retirement, only to be blindsided by the social and emotional issues that may be awaiting them once they leave the job behind.